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7.02.2004


analog dating 

so, with no online profiles up, save for friendster, where does that leave infiniti (yes, i use the royal third person in referencing myself)? well, let's just say i'm sticking my nose to the grindstone (i think that's the idiomatic expression), immersing myself in my work and waiting for some numbskull to throw themselves onto the hood of my car. such is the life.

btw, i decided to "de-friendster" an ex from my list of friendsters. i have this thing where i can't really be friends with exes, nor do i want them to be able to keep tabs on me. so i nixed this guy... and well... who cares? the illusion of us being "friends" was as "real" as knowing whether or not i could date someone based on the items i would find in their bedroom or the "five items he/she can't live without."

if anyone is interested, i'll be heading west on sunset boulevard at approximately 9am saturday, 3 july--in case, someone wants to hop onto my moving VW golf.

6.28.2004


Four Ways to ask a guy out 

1.)"Hey I've been meaning to check out this cafe on ------ and could
definitely use the company, do you want to join me? "

2.)(If they are new to the area) "Hey Let me know if you want to
explore (name of city) and we can plan something"

3.)"Have you seen (insert movie)? I've been dying to check it out"

4.)"I'll be in the area soon, do you want to meet up and catch a bite
to eat?"

ANY OTHER IDEAS?


Ways to talk to your partner about practicing safe sex 

Ok so we all really enjoy having sex, be it in a long term relationship or a one night stand.

However, we're living in a world where not everything is what it seems.Without protective sex you risk pregnancy and STDS.

That said, here are some ways to talk about practicing safe sex:

1.)"Do you have a condom?"
2.)Carry a condom with you. Try to find one that has spermicidal
lubricant. Or carry a barrier contraceptive
3.)"Wait, we need a condom"
4.)Hang on, do you have a condom?

And if you're in a relationship that's getting serious here are some ways to bring up practicing safe sex:

1.) "I really like spending time with you physically, that's why I want to make sure that we are responsible and take care of each other in a meaningful way. So can we take a look at contraceptives together? "


Don't be afraid to bring up the subject of Safe Sex!

6.27.2004


What constitutes a physical relationship?  

what constitutes a physical relationship?

Moreover, is it possible for people to engage with each other physically?

I know friends who are in this situation where they don't have time for a deep romantic relatiionship; yet have that physical need to be with someone.

My thoughts on this is that there is nothing wrong in satisfying a craving, as long as both you and your partner are fully aware of the consequences. What gets messy is when one person expects more than the other person. The results can lead to moral breakdown and heartache.
The best way I see to enter into this type of situation is to be upfront and honest with your partner:

"Look I really like you, but I'm going through a serious time right now and cannot commit to anyone right now. What I do need is someone who can take care of my physical needs. Is this what you're looking for?"


Thoughts ?